My Interpersonal Communication, “A Conflict From Lift Jokester”
Yowww, it’s been quite some time now, since the last episode of my interpersonal communication. This time we’ll be talking about conflict. Favorite subject from all of us…Am I right :)
Anyways, for the context, let me tell you guys one of my few times dealing directly within a conflict with someone. SO, it all started after a class. I go to the lift/elevator, then like usual some other college student just pinch in and try to go down the first floor. However, there is this one group of friend, and one of them a manchild wkwkwk, no no. A dude, decided to be a lift jokster for a moment. The elevator still can hold one person, but he just went in and out, in and out, not realizing when he went in and out again, the lift door is on the way to closing. Irritated by the jokster, my very clean mouth said “Anjing, yang bener. Liftnya udah mau nutup.” At first, he said sorry, and went out from the lift. And I didn’t thought much about it. In contrast though, on the way to parking lot, he and one of his friend, a girl approach me and just started yelling, or in interpersonal theory. It’s called silencers. He wanted to silence me, he just couldn’t accept that I said him Anjing. Wkwkwkwk…, yes I am wrong saying him Anjing. But, what he did though isn’t it dangerous? Maybe the delivery of speak is wrong from my part. However let’s just continue the story.
That time, when he yell, scream, I still stood still though, even asking him in cold head but little bit emotion, “lah kok emosi? Itu kan bahaya, mainan di lift begitu.” Yet, he still kept barging with emotion, I thought at first he said sorry and the story ended, but he kept going. Even, at some point, I kept smiling tengil, chuckled inside this dude is funny. Is he sok jagoan because there is his one girl friend or what? My mind kept moving. I even decide to fuck him, just walk away avoid him, but he kept a hold at my back and pull me back. Still with cold head, but then there is this line, I fucking hate so much, even when writing this. “Minta maaf lu, sujud ke gue.”
Let’s give a fucking clap to this dude… WOW..
Maybe, because of that I also get more emotion. I don’t know if this is true in the legal or in my college rule, if you get hit first, the ones who fucking guilty is the first hitter, you simply just defending.
So, I came back at him, just kept fueling more of the dude emotion, and straight up pointed at my left cheek, come on then punch me. I really do waiting for him to punch me that time. However he didn’t do it, chicken. If that time, he did it, maybe I really will clapped back and a fight will happen. Plus, after all the loud shouting, a security came to us and asked us to explain the situations, so we explain. That time, I really males kalau diperpanjang lagi, so when the security ask us to just forgive each other. I give my hand out first, the dude still wanted me to sujud to him. LOL. Even the security who heard it, quite shocked and berage him a bit. “That’s not gonna happen. Just forgive each other,now or do you want to finish it at student service?”
So we shook hands, but I still cannot believe how cartoonist the dude was, and kept smiling tengil at him, he got emotion again wkwkwk, and started to record me, during on my way to my motorcycle. A chicken move. Well actually, this move is what frighten me most, because sosial media is only a matter of perspective, and I scared he tempered with the story to make him guilty or somehow like that. Luckily it’s just a stranger I don’t know and don’t give shit. Even after it resulted, I talked with the security a bit, he aggreed on my argument and story.
The dude is a fucking chicken. If he is a man, he punch me that time, or move away from the quite crowded place, just straiht up ask me to fight outside campus.
SO… what can we learn from the story.
Style of conflict, I guess is a negative effects, didn’t bring any good to any of us, then maybe influenced by gender, I don’t know what he dude girl friend, told to him when at first he said sorry to me at the elevator. The conseuences is lose-lose. The topic of the conflict is content, because I’ve never known the dude, didn’t know his name, major, and didn’t have any previous relationship at all with him.
How do I solved the conflict, well mixed I guess. Mayority is based on solution oriented strategies, because I actually at first didn;t want it to be prolong, I wanted to leave immediatly, just ignore him which is one of the solution in my view, because the dude kept yelling and screaming emotion and shitty word, and after the security arrived, I’m the first one who move forward my hand for a forgiveness shake of pact, and after that shook hands, I went on, move on, in contrary to the dude still recording me.
Other options to slove the conflict is actually A, be soft, really cold minded, controlling strategies asking him maybe what emmense could be done to calm him down, compromises with what terms that win win for both for me and his feeling, which is fucking outrageus if I might say. Or B, do like the securtiy says, prolong the conflict by going to student service, eventhough they will also help mediate the conflict (organizational forms), or C the aggressive yet set the stage first outside campus, then maybe continue talking to find maybe more good solution or just straight up fight see who wins, and finish the conflict here and there. Whoever lose the fight, should not be bothering the winner. Crushed the conflict here and there by fighting. However it may come back if one of the side decided to rat the story, which in my guess if this happen, the dude will rat or even make it more worse for me.
So, I get how it solved out, and maybe if there is another way, I probably wanted to take him outside campus and just talked it out together for solution, because he’s still in huge emotion at the time he lashes on me, maybe a walk will calm him a bit.